Jonathan Crowe

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The Illness Card

Over on Ask MetaFilter, someone asks whether her chronically ill boyfriend might be using his illness as a “get out of jail free” card, and how to deal with it. For something with the potential to be so emotionally explosive (this is something I’ve been accused of on more than one occasion), the replies are surprisingly gentle and thoughtful, with lots of insights into what it’s like to be chronically ill and how difficult it is for the healthy to relate to it, and how tricky it can be to tell the difference between illness, fatigue, depression and, well, laziness.